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Big Boy Bed

For months, my wife and I had discussed getting Babito a twin bed. The crib seemed to be getting smaller and smaller. Luckily for us, we had time since Babito had never once tried to climb out of his crib (which is amazing considering he climbs up everything else!).

Finally, we found a nice twin bed with both drawers and a trundle bed. It looks like the one below, just without the garish solar system bedspread. Babito has a garish Thomas the Train bedspread.

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While we waited for the bed to be delivered, we began talking up the “big boy bed.” We had Babito to the point of utter excitement about it, although you could tell he was slightly nervous. I’d be putting him in his crib at night, telling him that soon he would be sleeping in a big boy bed. He would always ask me, “Will you pick me up and get me out of it?” I tried to explain to him that he would be able to get in and out of the bed all by himself. I didn’t think he really grasped the concept.

Finally, last Sunday, his bed was delivered. He was excited to see his bed with the cool Thomas the Train sheets, blankets, pillow cases, and bedspread.

That night, after our many bedtime rituals, he climbed up on his bed and I joined him for some book reading. When I finished the two books we had selected he asked me to read them again, so I did. After the second reading he asked me to read them yet again. Normally, when he pulls this kind of stunt, I put my foot down and tell him no, but since it was going to be his first night in his new bed I indulged him.

After the third readings, I told him good night, kissed him, blessed him, told him I loved him, and said “See ya later, Alligator.” He said “After while, Crocodile.” (This is all another part of the bedtime ritual that must be strictly followed, or else.) As I walked out of the room he said “Daddy, I like my new bed. It’s nice.”

I looked back and my little boy, who looked so big in his little crib, looked so tiny in his new big boy bed. I could tell he was a little nervous, but he didn’t say anything else. He was going to be a brave little boy, and I couldn’t be prouder of him.

The next morning, after I had left for work, my wife went in to check on him. He was lying in bed. He was already awake. She said “Want me to get you out of bed?” Babito said, “No, this is a big boy bed, Mommy. I can get out ALL by MYSELF!” And he did. And he is. Way too fast.

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Trains

The Babito is almost always still asleep when I leave for work in the morning.  Today I left a little later than usual because I was driving in instead of taking the train (because there’s a certain holiday on Sunday that I’m not yet prepared for.).

Anyway, he must have heard me talking to my wife, because he woke up and started calling for me to come in his room.  I was about to leave and didn’t want to go in his room because I’d only get to see him for a minute before I had to go, and I thought it would upset him when I had to leave.

My wife encouraged me to go see him for a minute, so I reluctantly went in his room.

“No work today, Daddy?”

“No, Daddy has to go to work.”

He asked me if I would play trains with him when I got home from work, and I said “Yes, I would love to play trains with you when I get home.”

I told him that I had to leave for work and he said that he wanted to go downstairs and say goodbye to me.  My wife was in our room getting ready for work, so I said no, you can say goodbye to me here.  He insisted that he wanted to go downstairs.  I was about to say no again when my wife walked in and said “It’s ok, we can go downstairs and say goodbye to Daddy.”

We went downstairs and I gave him a kiss goodbye and said “Have a nice day!”

Babito said “Have a nice day at work, Daddy!”

As I backed out of our driveway I looked over to our front window.  Babito was standing on the couch watching me leave and waving to me.  I waved back.  Even though it was 6:30 in the morning, I honked my horn, because he loves that.  I’m sure the neighbors didn’t, but that’s ok.

I’d been promising to play trains with him for the past few days but haven’t because I’ve been getting home right around the time I usually start him on his long bedtime routine of bathing and book reading.  Last night he cried when I told him it was time to go upstairs for his bath because he wanted to play trains first.  I said no and took him upstairs.  I should have played trains with him, if only for a few minutes.  But I didn’t.  And I should have.

I think because he cried about it I decided not to “reward” him with playing trains.  Of course none of us want to encourage crying and tantrums by giving in to them.  He is going through a stage right now where he occasionally throws a mini-tantrum if he doesn’t get his way.  Not always, and not too bad, but we don’t want the tantrums to escalate.  It’s reasonable, right?

Thinking about it this morning, I realized that I’ve been promising to play trains and I haven’t lived up to my promise.  Sometimes little kids have valid reasons for crying because maybe it’s just their way of showing disappointment for unmet promises.

I also realized that my wife gave him two special little gifts by making me go say Hi to him and by taking him downstairs to wave goodbye to me out the window.  I realized that I received two special gifts at the same time.  I realized that we shouldn’t be so strict with routines and schedules and the tempers of a 2 1/2 year old. 

Shortly after I got to work, I received an e-mail from my wife saying “Babito was so happy he got to see you this morning.  He’s been in such a great mood.  It made his day!” 

No, it made mine, and I can’t wait to play trains tonight, no matter what time I get home.

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Maddie Spohr

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It is with great sadness that I must tell you all that Maddie Spohr, the gorgeous 17-month old daughter of Mike and Heather Spohr passed away yesterday. Maddie was a true inspiration to countless people, both here on the internet and in her life. She touched so many people, and it has been a true joy to follow her life through both Heather and Mike’s blogs, Flickr page, and Twitter.

Words cannot begin to convey the sorrow I’m feeling for them. The amazing show of support that has been shown on the internet over the past day has been inspirational and moving. May God Bless Maddie, and may He bring peace and comfort to Heather, Mike, their families and friends through this unimaginably difficult time.  Please keep them all in your thoughts and prayers.

If you would like to honor Maddie’s memory, please consider donating to the March of Dimes at the link below. If you’d like to make a donation to help pay for her funeral services, a PayPal account has been set up. On PayPal, direct your payment to formaddie@hotmomreviews.com (This account was not working earlier, but I just spoke with PayPal and it’s working now.)

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Unspoken Eulogy

I mentioned earlier that I felt bad that I didn’t stand up and say anything about my Grandma at her services.  It’s true that I did not know her well, but still it’s my Grandma, right?  I should have said something.

It’s been gnawing at me a little all week.  I’ve been thinking about what I could have, and should have, said.

If I could go back, here’s what I’d say…

“I regret that I didn’t know my Grandma as well as I could have.

From both what you’ve all said today and from the limited time I spent with her I know she was a special woman.

I’m in awe that she dropped out of school in the 4th grade, during the Great Depression, to take care of her eight younger brothers and sisters while her parents were out working.

I think it’s wonderful that she spent countless hours with dying patients, after her 12 hour shift, simply because they were alone and scared and needed someone to hold their hand.

She spent her later years taking care of her young grandchildren, my cousins, and I can see her influence on them, as they’re growing up to be warm, well-mannered, loving young adults.

What I’m most thankful for is the values and morals and caring, sensitive heart that she passed on to my Dad, who passed them on to me, and who I’m doing my best to pass on to my son.

For all of these things I will always be grateful to you.  Thank you Grandma.  God Bless you.”

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