The Babito has not reached that phase where children begin to lie about things (unless you count his responses to being asked if he’s tired or has to go pee pee). In fact, he’s brutally honest when you ask him questions.
For example, if he breaks something or makes a mess he’ll freely admit to doing it.
I truly think children are born innocent and honest, it’s their environment that turns them into little liars. I think it’s actually a sign of intelligence for a child to learn to lie, especially as a sign of self-protection.
Of course, I don’t advocate children to lie, but they really don’t know any better. It is our job as parents to teach them it’s wrong.
How do we do that?
First, we have to set a good example for our kids by always being honest with them. Your children, especially young children, truly emulate what you do and how you act.
Secondly, you have to encourage truthful responses. You have to control your temper when your child does something wrong and admits to it. Eventually a child will learn to lie (if he’s smart) if you respond in anger. Take that time to thank them for telling the truth and calmly explain why their action or behavior was wrong. I know – it’s harder to do than it sounds.
It’s easier when they’re toddlers when they are in a more controlled environment. No doubt they will be exposed to many little fibbers when they start school. That’s when you’ll have to hope that your positive reinforcements about being honest and truthful will win out.
Have you had issues with your kids lying? How did you deal with it?
Tags: lies, lying, Parenting, toddlers
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#1 by Lauryn on September 18th, 2009
I couldn't agree more! I think all kids eventually try out lying just as a form of independence and being in control of their own little destiny for a little while, but you're completely right. Having their parents set that example is so incredibly important!
#2 by becky on September 18th, 2009
hah i just blogged about my kid and her lying this week! she never really lied much until recently. and her lying isn't really to get out of trouble. it's moreso making up stories. like using her imagination. BUT in lies lol i've been telling her that it's wrong. she has not stopped. i'm praying it's a phase!
#3 by becky on September 18th, 2009
hah i just blogged about my kid and her lying this week! she never really lied much until recently. and her lying isn't really to get out of trouble. it's moreso making up stories. like using her imagination. BUT in lies lol i've been telling her that it's wrong. she has not stopped. i'm praying it's a phase!