As you can tell, if you’ve read my blog at all, that I love being a Daddy. There are so many magical moments that you can only experience when you’re a parent. But I’m not gonna lie, there’s also moments that you could definitely do without.
One happened tonight.
Babito normally loves bathtime, and it’s part of my nightly routine with him. Mommy takes the morning and early evening shifts. I take over when I get home from work. My job is to play with him for about an hour, give him a bath, read him a few books, and put him to bed.
This routine is deeply ingrained in him. The steps are almost always pain-free. I am very impressed with my skills.
We play for a while and then I tell him it’s time for a bath, usually around 7:30. This usually excites him. By 8:00 he’s on my lap in the rocking chair in his room reading a book or two. He almost always picks either an Elmo or Thomas the Train book. He knows them both cover to cover, as do I, unfortunately. Then we say his prayers and it’s right to bed. I used to stay in his room until he fell asleep, but that was causing all kinds of problems with him not falling asleep, so now I leave as soon as I put him in bed. He cried a little the first few nights after I made that switch, but it’s working very well now.
Back to tonight.
Mommy was upstairs, so she was helping me get him ready for his bath (thanks, Mommy!). As she was undressing him I went into our bedroom to change, so Mommy put him in the bath. He was NOT happy, even when I came into the bathroom. He was screaming and would not sit down in the bath, despite my cajoling, threats, and “Daddy Look.” I quickly bathed him while he stood there screaming and immediately took him out of the bath (no drum solos or Pirates of the Caribbean karaoke – don’t ask), put on his pajamas while he continued to scream, told him we were skipping the book because he was being a bad boy while he pierced my eardrums, put him in his crib (yes, he’s still in a crib….he’s never once tried to climb out although he climbs up on everything else in the house), said his prayers while he continued to hysterically scream, and then left the room.
As I stood in the hallway listening to him wail “Daddy Book, Daddy Book!” my wife gently reminded me that we got him out his routine and suggested that I go back in and read to him. Actually, although I greatly appreciate her help (in case she’s reading this) his routine went off track by her putting him in the bathtub instead of me. Does some tiny change in a toddler’s routine really throw him off that much that he turns into the Brat of the Year? Tonight it did.
I went back into his room and told him that I would read him a book if he stopped crying. He struggled for a minute but was able to get down to a slight hyperventilation.
I told him “One book, that’s it.” He said “One book, that’s it, Daddy.”
We started to read the Elmo book, and when we got about a quarter of the way through (in about two minutes) he said “I go to bed now, Daddy.” Ah, the joys of parenthood.
A happier bath, many months ago…
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#1 by Dan Hughes on August 26th, 2008
I wish we had a routine like that. We’ve never been organized enough to create one with either of our kids, which can make bedtime a struggle sometimes.
I’m hoping it’ll all get better by the time they reach 18.
#2 by Debbie on August 27th, 2008
Again, tears for your frustration, and then tears at how sweet he sounded. I have many, many times gone back in to a crying toddler with a “deal.” I’ve taken something away or not done something, and listening to them cry for it breaks my heart. And honestly, my son gripped my heart a lot more than my daughter, so your story took me right back to some of those moments!
Hopefully tonight goes much better
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#3 by jenny, Bloggess on August 27th, 2008
You throw Hailey off her routine and she becomes a tiny sumo wrestler. It’s ugly.
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#4 by Jim on August 27th, 2008
Routine rocks until it gets broken. That’s when we get to use all our creativity to avert ’situations.’ Mostly it teaches us to work under pressure…and that alcohol takes the edge off of a bad bath after sleep is achieved.
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#5 by terri on August 27th, 2008
Oh, poor kid! I bet he was overly tired to be so thrown off by a change in routine like that. What a cutie though!
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#6 by Mike from the Newborn Identity on August 27th, 2008
When I was a kid and being bad I wouldn’t hear a good story from my Dad. I would hear this gem:
“I had an awl
I stuck it in the wall
And that is all”
Dad would then shut off the light leaving me way angry, and really hating that stupid “awl” bit. I ussually was good the next night though!
#7 by VegasDad on August 27th, 2008
Sounds exactly like my routine, except Z-Dub takes showers now. It’s much easier. We have our good days and our bad days. It depends on “the mood” and how tired he is.
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#8 by katelin on August 27th, 2008
he is seriously the cutest little thing, even if he does freak out if you take him off routine, haha.
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#9 by Romi on August 27th, 2008
OH MY GOSH…I love the baby-in-the-sink bath look! I wonder if I ever got to take any baths in the sink when I was a wee one…I don’t have any pictures, but I hope so…it seems like a crucial part of childhood that should not be missed…
PS: that sounds like a heck of a night…nice that he gave you a little break at the end
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#10 by Katie on August 28th, 2008
Aww, that picture is adorable! Though he wasn’t happy last night, I think it’s great that you guys have him on such a good routine and schedule. I’ve always heard that that’s what toddlers need.
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#11 by Sarah on August 28th, 2008
Poor little guy
…but what is this bath time kareoke you speak of?
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#12 by Daddy Dan on August 28th, 2008
Dan Hughes: We’ve had him following a routine since he was very little and it’s worked great. Luckily my wife read a lot of baby books and websites so she knew the importance of a routine.
Debbie: All my posts have made you cry lately, haven’t they? You may want to skip tomorrow’s post! Last night he was back to his normal, happy bath-taking self!
Bloggess: Apparently so does Babito!
Jim: I’ve failed in the patience department more than once. I need to master it so I stop getting tested!
Terri: Thanks, Terri. Yes, he was very tired….always a scary time!
Mike: I may have to try that, though I’m a sucker for his crying. I’m too much of a softie!
Vegas Dad: I’m still amazed that he takes showers at such a young age. Do you shower with him at the same time?
Katelin: Thanks, Katelin!
Romi: The bath in the sink is much easier! And I agree, it should be a part of each baby’s childhood. I think he could tell that I was not happy with him, so he decided to cut the book reading short. I’m glad we didn’t go to bed angry/upset with each other.
Katie: Thanks, Katie! Yes, if you learn only one baby tip from me, learn this: Routines are essential to your mental well-being!
Sarah: Hi Sarah, I’ll have to write a post about the bathtime karaoke soon. It’s too funny.